what she be a man's motives for desiring to date a girl? Her physique? her personality? her beliefs? her finances? her lifestyle? i think all of those factors should be considered on deciding to date a girl; however, one or more will outweigh some other ones. for me, her physique and personality will outweigh her finances or beliefs. i know it's sad but i'm working on it. one thing i noticed bout myself is i dont have many girl friends. the only time i had a relationship with a girl was when i was going out with her.you may think our dating relationship was bad, but it wasn't. i adapt easily so that may have been a pro of that situation. but yeah maybe God is telling me to start off with friendship and then go into a dating relationship than jumping right into dating....